So - my beautiful, fragile, strong willed angel child is now a wife.
WOW. A year ago I would never have thought it possible. She was so angry at the world and me in particular and now - to see her calm and rational and happy.....how absolutely wonderful.
Her wedding day - which I planned for months, was warm and everything (well almost) turned out perfectly. She looked radiant (as all brides should) and he was so proud to have her on his arm.
Apart from two minor manic episodes which were wedding realted - all seems well. She stopped her meds for a month (just before the first episode) and I called the son in law to be in. I explained all about the paranoia and the anger that she experiences and how irrational she will become the longer she is off the meds. Think he was beginning to see it and convinced her that it wasn't because she was crazy that she needed them.
That is her stock answer when I ask about her meds "mom, I'm not crazy you know!".....well..................it ain't yoy who's crazy sweetheart, but your actions can be a little out of whack at times.
When she's on the meds she laughs about it, but I think it bothers her that people perceive Biopolar as crazy people. It's sad, but she just needs to deal with and prove the perception wrong.
A while ago her therapist told me that she manipulates me and that I need to take a stand. She gets so mean when she doesn't get her way, that I usually back down, but with this recent episode, I stood my ground, put the phone down on her when she got abusive, and did not reply to either sms's or emails.
Eventually R (her now husband) sms'd me too and also took a swing at me (not literally) and thats when I told them both to deal with dad.
I said that I wasn't going to argue or validate, they must come to the house and talk to him.
Silence for tow days and then an apology.
Not sure if this was because I wouldn't engage, or because they didn't want to deal with dad, but either way, it was over.
LESSON LEARNT.
So now - I wish them both a happily ever after, with prayers every night that she stays happy and that he understands that he can turn to us when the wheels fall off.
In the meantime, I just hope that the worst is over. The meds (when she takes them) work and she functions in the world.
Am so proud of her - she is such a very brave girl.
